No - not that ex!
Author: Suhein Beck
Feb 1, 2016
Instead of thinking of this topic as a possible disqualification of YOU, think of this early discussion in the first few dates as YOUR opportunity to evaluate him/her based on how they react. Not only do you get to test his/her maturity level and understanding of real-world problems, but long-term relationships depend on these problem-solving skills together.
It's probably not a 1st or 2nd date discussion - unless it comes up randomly, just go with the flow naturally. But definitely it needs to come up in the early 3rd-5th dates, before things become more committed. An exception to this, is if you are on serious medications or cycles of eczema that limit your normal activities. In those cases, you have to be upfront and bring up the circumstances, such as your energy level doesn't allow you to go dancing and that activity would be excruciating to your skin. No your health comes first here!
If your eczema is currently absent, you can mention in a casual manner how you are excited about your recent healthy lifestyle changes and that this is a "good time" and you are up for celebrating life! This is where you can build bridges with this person around these good habits. Is he/she interested in joining you on these life-celebrating activities, exercise, better diet habits? Remember you want a partner to encourage that lifestyle, not a downer! Besides this person could be the father/mother of your 27 children - so they better be up to the task!
Once you mention it, this is your chance to see if that person dives in to understand and work through this with you. THAT'S the kind of person you are looking for, right? Maybe he/she DOES deserve YOU!?! Your eczema makes you a better person for having inner strength and endurance. Patience and empathy towards other human beings are all traits that come with the territory. You offer so much more than so many other "healthy" people that walk around feeling invincible and immortal. You know how precious life is, and therefore you cherish love and tenderness so much more than another would. YOU are not "damaged", but rather you've been tested and because of this, you rise above it and offer so much more depth to all of your family and your lucky circle of friends!